dotlizard dot com - Latest Comments in this one’s for the fat girls

Re: this one’s for the fat girls

-e- — Sat, 09 Nov 2002 05:46:22 -0000

Bones are for dogs.
Meat is for men.

Re: this one’s for the fat girls

statia — Sat, 09 Nov 2002 02:06:43 -0000

And reading back again, Lisa's right. It's perfectly acceptable for someone to say "what are you a size 0?" in a mean spirited way, and no one would bat an eyelash. I already have enough problems with body image.

Re: this one’s for the fat girls

soulsister — Fri, 08 Nov 2002 22:40:21 -0000

that's so shallow. it saddens me that some people just can't accept another's weighty issues. are they so perfect themselves? who are they to judge?

Re: this one’s for the fat girls

Monkey! — Fri, 08 Nov 2002 21:04:51 -0000

In my educated opinion, the wretch in question should be dragged out into the street where the rabid rats shall be released to gnaw at his limbs. We will then cut him into tiny pieces, put them back together with rubber cement, and beat the pieces with sticks. Big sticks.

That's just what I think.

Re: this one’s for the fat girls

munin — Fri, 08 Nov 2002 04:03:33 -0000

eep! sorry just reread and realised I mistyped some of that. "attack someone to viciously, to mak egrand statements " would in fact be "attack someone so viciously, to make grand statements"

grazie. :)
m.

Re: this one’s for the fat girls

munin — Fri, 08 Nov 2002 04:01:11 -0000

All I can add to the above is a bunch of dittos to what has been said in other comments. Be it that we are plump are stick like, I believe that we all struggle with our self image. To attack someone to viciously, to mak egrand statements that are hurtful, you have to wonder where someone like that is coming from and how they can hate so much.

Statia, being on the twiggy side of the spectrum and having no cleavage to speak of I cannot agree more with what you, and KD have said.

Re: this one’s for the fat girls

statia — Fri, 08 Nov 2002 01:57:28 -0000

Awesome post! I swear that was just a low thing to say. And you know, I have to say that on the opposite end of the spectrum, just because you're thin doesn't mean you struggle with your weight either. I struggle with anorexia and body image. I'd like to thank Cosmo for that. I've been anywhere from a size 2 to a size 12. Like Robyn said, if you don't love me when I'm a size 14, I sure as hell don't want your love when I'm a size 6.

If there's one thing I love about the internet, and making friends is that I don't give a rats ass what you look like. I love you for who you are. It's a trait carried that over into my non virtual life over the last ten years, as well.

Re: this one’s for the fat girls

Beverly — Fri, 08 Nov 2002 01:12:18 -0000

What I say to the insensitive people out there (who don't know me from Adam, or the problems I've had that got me here) is "I may be fat, but youse is ugly and I can diet."
You don't have to be thin to be beautiful... and to me, the outside of a package doesn't always reflect the beauty of the gift within.

Re: this one’s for the fat girls

robyn — Thu, 07 Nov 2002 22:21:28 -0000

stacey, she didn't leave a valid webpage in her actual entry -- that is correct. However, she is the live-in-roomie of the person this all started over, and you can find the mindless twit's blog here: strangecurrency.com

Re: this one’s for the fat girls

VASpider — Thu, 07 Nov 2002 04:47:27 -0000

I know that nameless comment must belong to Tiny, and I so have to second that. If there's one thing that Faire has given me that nothing else in my life has, it's the feeling that, heeeeell yes I'm sexay, no matter if I'm a size 6-8 (which I was my first season) or a size 14-16 (which I am now), post-kid.

Hell, apparently I looked like a dangerously skinny twig when I was a size six.

Re: this one’s for the fat girls

Lisa — Thu, 07 Nov 2002 04:16:56 -0000

kd, as you said earlier, folks insult thin people as well. Even more disturbing to me as a thin person is this seems to be socially acceptable. I had a lengthy rant on my site years ago about this. Seems wrong to me that someone can approach me and say "Jesus, you skinny little shit, what do wear? Size one? I bet you don't even weigh 100 pounds soaking wet!" and laugh and no one will say a thing.

However, if I was to publicly approach a larger woman and say "Hey, fat ass! What size do you wear? 24?? You must weigh 300 pounds!".... well, that wouldn't go well for me at all. And I'd never dream of saying something that mean. Which goes to show how we are conditioned as a society. Being overweight is looked at as something bad and therefore isn't mentioned in polite society. Being thin is supposedly acceptable so it's okay to talk about it, even in a mean spirited way. Am I making sense? Probably not because I'm tired and I tend to ramble. Anyway, we all need to practice kindness and respect in every situation we encounter.

Re: this one’s for the fat girls

stacey — Thu, 07 Nov 2002 02:07:20 -0000

I just bet the person that left that comment didn't leave a valid address or webpage. Just like the person yesterday who told Portia to get over herself or the person who told me that if I should get out of the country if I didn't like George Bush or the person who told me that all foreigners were Aids-filled welfare scum.

Stupid people. Stupid scared little people.

Re: this one’s for the fat girls

kd — Thu, 07 Nov 2002 01:38:43 -0000

me too!

Re: this one’s for the fat girls

deborah — Thu, 07 Nov 2002 00:57:25 -0000

Jen's my hero. heroine. you get the picture :)

Re: this one’s for the fat girls

Jen — Thu, 07 Nov 2002 00:42:28 -0000

*Sigh* some people are just too bitchy for they're own good. I pity her, yeah. But I also know what it feels like to be the brunt of such shallow, judgemental pettiness.

To those folks I say:

So what if I'm a size 12/not super pretty/terribly klutzy? You may be remarkable for your lack of body mass, a gorgeous profile and dazzling smile, or ability to glide through hotel lobbies in stiletto heels on thick shag carpets, but I am remarkable in in more substantial and meaningful ways.

Old people, children, and animals like me. People, familiar or otherwise, open up and tell me things -- because I listen. I see things in a quirky and serendipitous way. I love. I accept. I laugh and enjoy and cherish. And given the option to shrink my ass to fit in your miniscule Calvin Klein's, I'd decline the offer with a lightness of heart if not of physical being.

Re: this one’s for the fat girls

kd — Wed, 06 Nov 2002 22:10:52 -0000

and we have a winner! i'm sorry about the p/w, it's on it's way now ...

Re: this one’s for the fat girls

Suzie — Wed, 06 Nov 2002 22:08:51 -0000

I think it's what Camryn Manheim said during her Emmy (?) acceptance speech. For my prize can I have my new FTP password, oh guru?

Re: this one’s for the fat girls

kd — Wed, 06 Nov 2002 21:48:04 -0000

while they might have said that in Baby Got Back (i don't know), that wasn't what i was thinking about.

hint: awards ceremony. and that's the only hint you get.

Re: this one’s for the fat girls

Lisa — Wed, 06 Nov 2002 21:42:59 -0000

Cleavage? What is cleavage? I think I may have that on the backside but not on the front. : )

Re: this one’s for the fat girls

Christine — Wed, 06 Nov 2002 21:42:15 -0000

OH! OH!!! I know where the quote is from! (I think. I hope I'm right) Is it from "Baby got Back"? Am I right? Do I get a prize? ;-)

(E-mail me and let me know!)

Re: this one’s for the fat girls

Christine — Wed, 06 Nov 2002 21:40:32 -0000

I'm inspired and THANKFUL to finally be dating someone that loves me for me, just like I am. And he tells me that I am beautiful even though I have issues with the "too fluffy" parts of my figure. Ahhhh... what wonderful bliss! Especially after 8 years of hell with the Insignificant Other!

Now I can't wait to be a lusty wench at the Ren Faire on Saturday! What a blast I'll have! Skinny chicks just can't get the cleavage right. Mwuhahahaha!

Re: this one’s for the fat girls

christine — Wed, 06 Nov 2002 21:05:30 -0000

Great post, KD! Let's see how many friends *shriveled-up soulless wretch* ends up with...I bet it won't be many!

Re: this one’s for the fat girls

Anonymous — Wed, 06 Nov 2002 20:55:46 -0000

Women in a hot tub? WHERE!?

I know, it's a sensitive subject. I come from the background of Ren Faires, where women of all shapes and sizes are worshipped more or less for the fabulous people that they happen to be at the time. I'm all about that. Nothing sexier on a woman than confidence, I say. (Well. That, and me.)

That's two jokes. But I mean well.

Re: this one’s for the fat girls

Linkmeister — Wed, 06 Nov 2002 20:52:04 -0000

I wish my fellow humans would figure out that it's the contents which are important, not the packaging, be it people, cigarettes, or groceries...

Re: this one’s for the fat girls

kd — Wed, 06 Nov 2002 20:50:20 -0000

you know this works both ways -- i know that another form of insulting/discrimination comes from "average" or larger sized women point-blank asking a thin woman "are you anorexic?" or telling them to "eat something".

either way, these are sensitive, sensitive subjects.